Friday, April 10, 2009

...bErCiNtA sEbELuM bErKaHwiN...

« pada: 28 June, 2007, 01:19:11 AM »


Assalamualaikum...

Disini saya ada sedikit kemusykilan mengenai Bercinta sebelum berkahwin..

adakah di dalam agama islam melarang atau mengharamkan lelaki dan perempuan bercinta sebelum melangsungkan perkahwinan, tetapi mereka berniat untuk melansungkan perhubungan sehingga ke alam perkahwinan...

adakah ia salah di sisi islam atau tidak?? Jika ada sesiapa yg boleh membantu saya menyelesaikan kemusykilan saya ni.. boleh la kita kongsi bersama ilmu yer assalamualaikum

Jika Boleh sertakan dalil atau hadis yg mengatakan mengenai ia yer assalamualaikum
Terima kasih =)
sekian
Assalamualaikum assalamualaikum



« Jawab #1 pada: 28 June, 2007, 01:28:46 AM »


Assalaamu'alaikum
erm..pendapat thirah,dalam Alquran tak sebut suruh bercinta dulu sebleum kawin.
Rasulullah pun tak wat mcm tu..jd..
terpulang pd individu
tapi ada ayat kata la tak rabu zina..
kalau rasa bercinta sebelum kawin boleh mendekatkan kita kepada pelbagai jenis zina...better tak payah.
ini cuma pendapat peribadi yg serba kekurangn..



« Jawab #2 pada: 28 June, 2007, 03:45:57 AM »



Harap ini dapat membantu

Couple (Lelaki/Perempuan) Is it permisibble?

It stands to reason that having a girlfriend is not the manner of a Muslim. It
is forbidden for a male Muslim to have a girlfriend, as it's forbidden for a
female Muslim to have a boyfriend.
Muslims should have good relations with all people, males as well as females. At
school, at work, in you neighborhood etc. You should be kind and courteous to
everyone. However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a non-mahram person or
persons of the opposite gender as a very close friend. Such friendship often
leads to Haram.

In the Qur’an, Allah mentioned that good men and women are those who marry, do
not have fornicating relationships and do not have "paramours" or Akhdan. (Quran chapter Al-Nisaa’ 4: Verse 25 & Chapter Al-Maâidah 5: verse 5).

Akhdan are "sweethearts" or for a man a "mistress" and for a woman a "lover".

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upom him, is reported to have stated that
“whenever two strangers of the opposite gender are alone with each other, Satan
becomes the third one between them.” (Hadith in Al-Tirmidhi, 1091)”

So it is not allowed for a Muslim boy to have a girlfriend or for a Muslim girl
to have a boyfriend. Howsoever pure your intentions may be, the danger is that
it will lead you to sin. Or at least you will be alone with each other and spend
more time together.

Of course, homosexuality is also forbidden in Islam. So do not take a boy either
as your intimate friend in the "gay sense" of the word.

A friendship with the opposite sex is not of Islam. It used to be of the
Jahiliyyah (pre-Islamic era) style of life. A friendship of the two sexes can
never be safe or sex-free. I agree that in some exceptional cases, it could be
innocent. But, a law is usually amended for social regulations. There is no law
to be customized for a certain person or few people.
The Qur'an and Sunnah guidance for the sexes dealing with each other has a main
major issue for which Islam has set principles and rules to govern. It is the
desire and lust. The Qur'an prohibits anything that motivates one's heart in a
seductive way towards the other. The Qur'an tells a woman when she speaks to a man to speak in a way that doesn't show any interest in him lest he should feel seduced to build up an unhealthy relationship. If there is a possibility in any
kind of action that it could lead by some percentage into catastrophe, no one
will ever take that risk. I can say what you call friendship could have some
percentage of leading into haram. How would you go to that risk whereas if a
doctor says to you an operation of a certain organ could lead you into death?
You would say I don't want to risk my life, but I'll take the pain.
Islam is not a man's opinion, it is directly laws from God. If you abide by the
laws god lays out via Islam, you certainly will be on the safe side. If you want
to follow reason, reason has a lot of defects and sometimes we cannot draw the
line to know who is sane and who is insane. Sometimes you cannot know which is which.

Wallahualam...



« Jawab #3 pada: 28 June, 2007, 08:29:59 AM »


Pada hari ini, benda-benda yang baik dihalalkan bagi kamu, dan makanan orang-orang yang diberi al-Kitab adalah halal bagi kamu, dan dihalalkan bagi mereka, makanan kamu. Begitu juga wanita-wanita yang mukmin, dalam pernikahan, dan menikahi wanita-wanita daripada mereka yang diberi al-Kitab sebelum kamu, jika kamu memberikan mereka upah mereka, dalam ikatan perkahwinan, bukan dalam perzinaan, atau menjadikannya teman rahsia. Sesiapa yang tidak percaya dalam keimanan, amalannya menjadi sia-sia, dan di akhirat dia termasuk orang-orang yang rugi.(al-maidah :5)

Dan sesiapa antara kamu yang tidak mempunyai kemewahan untuk membolehkan mengahwini wanita-wanita merdeka yang mukmin, maka dia mengambil pemudi kamu yang mukmin yang tangan kanan kamu memiliki; Allah sangat mengetahui mengenai keimanan kamu, sebahagian kamu daripada sebahagian yang lain. Maka kahwinilah mereka dengan izin keluarga mereka, dan berilah mereka upah mereka dengan baik sebagai wanita-wanita dalam ikatan perkahwinan, bukan dalam perzinaan, atau mengambil sebagai teman rahsia, tetapi apabila mereka telah dinikahi dan jika mereka melakukan kesumbangan, maka bagi mereka separuh daripada azab wanita yang merdeka. Itu adalah bagi orang-orang antara kamu yang menakuti dosa zina; dan lebih baik bagi kamu jika kamu bersabar. Allah Pengampun, Pengasih.(an-nisa' : 25)



" Berpuluh tahun kita meninggalkan asal usul kita, demi mencari pengertian sebuah kehidupan. Namun tidak salah untuk kita kembali jatuh cinta pada dunia yang pernah membesarkan kita, dan di sinilah bermulanya kehidupan sebenar "



« Jawab #4 pada: 28 June, 2007, 04:18:52 PM »


Ouh Begitu yer?? Tetapi saya lihat pasangan ni seolah2 mereka ingin menuju ke arah keredhaan ALLAH... kerana Keluarga si perempuan telah mengenali lelaki ini, kerana lelaki ini bertujuan ingin memimpin wanita ini ke arah yg diredhai ALLAH dan si lelaki ni cuba ingin mendekatkan diri nya dan perempuan itu ke arah keredhaan ALLAH... dan kata lelaki tu cinta nya kepada wanita itu adalah kerana ALLAH,

Jd adakah ALLAH membenci dan murka dengan perbuatan lelaki dan wanita tersebut yer?



« Jawab #5 pada: 29 June, 2007, 01:04:09 AM »


Salam alaik.. rasanya ttg hal ini byk kali diperbincangkan di dlm majalah. Mungkin ada yg terlepas pandang. Jadi di sini, saya kepilkan petikan dari artikel yg pernah diya baca.

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Cinta itu adalah suatu perasaan yang dikurniakan oleh ALLAH kepada setiap insan. Cinta mendorong manusia untuk terus hidup dan mencapai kejayaan dunia dan akhirat.

Islam tidak pernah menghalang sesuatu yang merupakan fitrah. Tetapi Islam memberikan garis panduan agar kehidupan mereka terpelihara daripada kerosakan dan menjamin keamanan mereka.

Cinta yang didorong oleh rasa takut kepada ALLAH akan membawa kebaikan dan kebahagian kepada manusia. Sebaliknya cinta yang berlandaskan nafsu tidak akan kekal. Malah akan menyebabkan manusia rasa gundah gulana dan kecewa. Cinta yang sejati dan agung hanyalah untuk ALLAH.

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w: "Tiga perkara yang sesiapa melakukannya akan mendapat kemanisan iman: Menjadikan ALLAH dan Rasul-NYA s.a.w sebagai cinta yang paling utama, menyintai seseorang semata-mata kerana ALLAH dan benci untuk kembali kepada kekufuran seperti dia benci dicampakkan ke dalam neraka." – Riwayat al-Bukhari.

Kewujudan cinta sebelum membuat keputusan untuk mengahwini seseorang itu penting dan dituntut oleh syarak. Rasulullah s.a.w menyarankan agar mereka yang ingin berkahwin melihat wanita yang ingin dikahwini terlebih dahulu. Hal ini pernah berlaku kepada seorang sahabat Nabi, iaitu al-Mughirah bin Syu'bah. Beliau memberitahu baginda bahawa beliau ingin mengahwini seorang wanita. Lalu baginda menyarankan agar beliau melihat dahulu wanita itu kerana ia boleh mendatangkan perasaan cinta kepada pasangan yang ingin dikahwini. (Rujuk al-Tirmizi: 1087. Diklasifikasikan sebagai hasan oleh al-Nasai).

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w: "Tidak kami dapati pada dua orang yang sedang bercinta itu (lebih baik daripada) nikah." – Riwayat Ibn Majah dan diklasifikasikan sebagai sahih oleh al-Busoiri dan al-Albani dalam al-Silsilah al-Sahihah: 624.

Al-Sindi r.h berkata: "Hadis itu boleh merujuk kepada dua orang atau lebih. Maksudnya, jika timbul perasaan cinta antara dua manusia yang berlainan jenis, cinta itu tidak akan bertambah atau bertahan lama tanpa ikatan perkahwinan. Jika terjadi perkahwinan atas dasar cinta itu, ia akan bertambah kuat dari hari ke hari. " (Rujuk: Nota kaki Sunan Ibn Majah).

Konsep cinta dalam Islam sangat unik, iaitu menyintai sesuatu atau seseorang hendaklah kerana mencari keredhaan ALLAH dan menurut peraturan syarak. Islam mengajar kita bahawa perkahwinan adalah ikatan yang suci, tepat dan satu-satunya cara yang dibenarkan oleh syarak dalam menghalalkan hubungan antara lelaki dan wanita.

Jika seorang lelaki benar-benar ingin mengambil seorang wanita menjadi isteri, dia perlu melihat wanita itu dengan keizinan wali dan ditemani mahram.

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w melalui hadis Ibn Abbas r.a: "Seorang lelaki tidak boleh berdua-duaan dengan wanita kecuali wanita itu bersama mahramnya." – Riwayat al-Bukhari.

Berhubung dengan batasan aurat bakal isteri, jumhur ulama berpendapat, hanya dibolehkan melihat wajah dan kedua tangan hingga ke pergelangan. Al-Auza'i berpendapat, dibolehkan melihatnya kecuali aurat, Ibn Hazm berkata, boleh melihat bahagian depan dan belakang wanita itu.

Menurut Ibn Qayyim, terdapat salah satu riwayat Imam Ahmad yang membenarkan bakal suami melihat apa yang zahir daripada tubuh bakal isteri seperti leher, betis dan sebagainya. Pendapat ini dipersetujui oleh Ibn Qudaamah dan al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar r.h. (Tahziib al-Sunan, ms: 25 – 26, al-Mughni, jil: 7, ms: 454 dan Fath al-Baari, jil: 11, ms: 78).

Antara pendapat ulama tentang batasan aurat bakal isteri ialah: Menurut Imam Syafie, tidak boleh melihat wanita yang ingin dikahwini tanpa menutup kepala (memakai hijab). Dia boleh melihat wajah dan tangan hingga ke pergelagan sama ada dengan keizinan atau tanpa keizinannya. (Al-Haawi al-Kabiir, jil: 9, ms: 34).

Imam al-Nawawi berpendapat dalam Raudhah al-Tolibin dan 'Umdah al-Muftin, jil: 7, ms: 19 – 20, sunat melihat bakal isteri agar seorang lelaki itu tidak menyesal setelah berkahwin dengannya… dibolehkan melihat berkali-kali dengan izinnya atau tanpa keizinannya. Jika masih tidak berpuas hati, dia dibenarkan mengutus wanita lain untuk melihatnya dan menerangkan sifat-sifat wanita itu kepadanya. Wanita juga dikehendaki melihat bakal suami agar apa yang disukai oleh bakal suami, disukai juga oleh dirinya terhadap bakal suami itu.

Abu Hanifah pula berpendapat, dibolehkan melihat wajah, tangan dan kaki. (Bidayatul Mujtahid wa Nihaayatul Muqtasid, jil: 3, ms: 10). Pendapat ini juga dipersetujui oleh Ibn Rushd.

Jumhur ulama membenarkan melihat wajah dan tangan kerana wajah merupakan sumber kecantikan seorang wanita dan tangan pula boleh menggambarkan tubuhnya sama ada langsing atau sebaliknya.

Berhubung dengan percintaan sebelum kahwin yang banyak berlaku di banyak Negara Islam diambil dari budaya barat, ia mempunyai banyak kesan negatif berbanding positif. Dalam Islam, lelaki dan wanita yang tidak ada sebarang pertalian darah (mahram) tidak boleh membuat sebarang perhubungan, sentuhan, keluar berdua-duaan (dating) atau sebagainya tanpa ikatan yang sah. Sudah banyak pengalaman orang-orang terdahulu mengajar kita betapa cinta yang berlandaskan keinginan nafsu tanpa panduan syarak gagal di pertengahan jalan.

Ramai yang menjadi buta kerana cinta. Orang yang sedang bercinta selalunya tidak dapat menilai sesuatu dengan baik kerana ditutup oleh perasaan itu. Mereka seolah-olah berada di awang-awangan. Akhirnya setelah berkahwin, barulah mereka tersedar siapa sebenarnya pasangan yang mereka cintai selama ini. Mereka juga mula menyedari bahawa pasangannya itu bukanlah sebaik yang disangka. Sebab itulah boleh dikatakan satu pertiga perkahwinan di barat berakhir dengan perceraian.

Cinta yang berpandukan kecintaan kepada ALLAH akan membahagiakan hati manusia dan menenangkan jiwa mereka. Mereka dapat menilai baik buruk sesuatu perkara dan sanggup mengorbankan perasaan cinta dan keinginan sendiri semata-mata kerana takut akan azab ALLAH. Mereka yakin sepenuh hati bahawa ikatan cinta yang diredhai itulah yang akan membawa kebahagian dan keberkatan dalam hidup mereka.

Kesimpulannya, ingatlah bahawa syaitan sentisa menghiasi indah sesuatu maksiat. Padahal ia amat keji di sisi ALLAH. Orang yang bercinta selalu lupa diri kerana telah terikut jalan syaitan. Bukanlah cinta itu yang mesti diperangi kerana ia fitrah dan pendorong utama manusia hidup di dunia ini. Tetapi, tindakan melanggar hukum syarak akibat cinta yang tidak terkawal itulah yang perlu dihindari. Mudah-mudahan ALLAH memberi petunjuk kepada muda-mudi hari ini kepada jalan yang lurus dan diredhai-NYA.

Sumber : http://www.alaf21.com.my/buletin_isnin/SJ_agama/default8.htm


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The Carnation is January's Birth Flower

Carnation

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

January: Carnation
Alternate: Snowdrop

The Carnation, whose botanic name is Dianthus caryophyllus, is really a plant that originated in the Near East at least 2000 years ago. It was originally only found in the popular light pink color, however today it has been cultivated into many other colors including red, purple, green and yellow.

Scholars can not agree on WHERE the name came from. Some believe that it came from the Latin word "carnis" which means flesh and refers to the original color of the flower. Religious scholars believe that it comes from the word "incarnation" referring to the incarnation of God made flesh. Still others believe that "carnation" was derived from the word "coronation" and that it was used in early Greek ceremonial crowns.

Because of their low cost, carnations are the flower given most often in a boutonniere or in a corsage for a teenager's high school prom, homecoming or other dance. They are also given to mothers on Mother's Day, and at their children's weddings. Again because of the low cost, they are used in wedding bouquets and as table decorations at parties. This allows for the host to have big assortments without breaking their budget.

The Carnation symbolizes different things in different countries. In Rome it was known as "Jove's Flower", after a beloved Roman God. In Korea, young girls put carnations in their hair, believing the order of the death of the carnations determines the difficulty level and order that they will face in their life. In Portugal it is a symbol of the Portuguese Carnation Revolution that occurred in April of 1974.

Each color of a Carnation has a different meaning. Light red symbolizes admiration, while dark red symbolizes a deep love. White symbolizes both pure love and luck. Striped Carnations symbolize regret. Purple Carnations are said to indicate capriciousness. Green Carnations are used predominantly on St. Patrick's Day. Pink Carnations are said to be a symbol of a mother's undying love, going back to biblical times when Carnations sprang up out of the ground where the Virgin Mary's tears fell as Jesus was carrying the cross.

The scarlet Carnation is the state flower of Ohio, chosen to honor assassinated president William McKinley, who was normally seen wearing it.

Fun and interesting fact: At Oxford University, it is customary to wear a Carnation to an exam. White Carnations are worn to the first exam, red to the last, and pink Carnations to every exam in between.


The Violet is February's Birth Flower

Violet

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

February: Violet
Alternate: Primrose

The Violet, with the botanic name of Viola, is a flowering plant with heart shaped leaves that often has a purple color to it. Violets are generally found and grown in the Northern Hemisphere of the world, but can also be found in Hawaii and the Andes.

The Violet has five petals total. One petal is on the bottom of the Violet, pointing downward, while the other four and positioned two on each side with an upward sweep to them. Different species of violets also have different shapes to their petals, which is one way scientists can tell them apart.

While Violets originated in a purple color, hence their name, they can also be found in a variety of colors including blue, yellow and white. Sometimes you will find multi-colored violets as well. Violet plants s will flower in large amounts throughout the spring and summer.

Most people believe Violets have no scent, however this is not accurate. A major component of the Violets scent is ketone which actually desensitizes the nasal receptors making it temporarily impossible to smell anything.

Fun and interesting fact: Violets are used in many countries and cultures as decorations to go on plates with food. They are also used in stuffing's for poultry and fish. You can actually eat this flower either raw or cooked, and you will often find the flavor of a Violet in a soufflé or desert. In France they still pour hot syrup on Violets and mix them up until the syrup dries and the sugar crystallizes over the Violet. These are used for decorating or as a special treat in an aromatic dessert.


The Daffodil is March's Birth Flower

Daffodil

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

March: Daffodil
Alternate: Jonquil

The Daffodil, with the botanic name of Narcissus, is a mostly spring flowering bulb, however, there are some species of Narcissus which bloom in the fall. The Daffodil is mostly found growing in the Mediterranean but there are a few species found throughout Asia and China.

The Daffodil was originally called an Affodell. No one is sure why the name was changed but there is proof that as early as the 16th Century playful names for the Daffodil like "Daffadown Dilly" or "daffadowndilly" had appeared.

The traditional Daffodil is a ring of light golden petals with a trumpet shaped center of a darker contrasting shade of gold/yellow. Cultivators have changed the flower for some nurseries giving it several layers of petals, instead of the original one, sometimes making the flower look like a little golden ball.

The Daffodil is used prominently for decorating during the Chinese New Year in both China and festivals celebrating this holiday around the world. The Daffodil is also the flower of Wales, where a small area of Tenby grows their own, unique variation. St. David's Day is celebrated in Wales on March 1st and Daffodils are often worn for that holiday.

Fun and interesting fact: Daffodils are poisonous and can be harmful or deadly if eaten, unlike the Violet.


The Daisy is April's Birth Flower

Daisy

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

April: Daisy
Alternate: Sweet Pea

The Daisy whose botanic name is Bellis perennis, is the most common Daisy and is a native of western, eastern and central Europe. Like the Primrose it is also referred to as the Common Daisy or English Daisy. In Latin "Daisy" means pretty.

The Daisy is actually an herb which symbolizes innocence, stability, sympathy and cheerfulness. The most common Daisy's are white but they can also be found in red, yellow, and purple, along with various shades in between. A daisy is generally 2-3cm in diameter from petal to petal and stands 2-10cm high. Rarely you can find them as tall as 15cm.

During the days of knighthood, suitors would wear a Daisy and the women would include a Daisy as part of their mementos to signify availability. After a proposal a ring of Daisies would be worn around the head to signify the woman's response.

Fun and interesting fact: It is believed that the name Daisy came from the phrase "day's eye" because of how the flower opens when the sun comes up and closes at night when the sun is down. Daisy's do not disappear during mowing which makes many people consider them a weed and treat them as such with weed killers.


The Lily of the Valley is May's Birth Flower

Lily of the Valley

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

May: Lily of the Valley
Alternate: Hawthorn

The May flower, Lily of the Valley has the botanical name of Convallaria magalis and originated in Europe. Today it is distributed widely throughout North America and North Asia, but in England it is still found as commonly as wild flowers. It is a small, bell shaped flower that gives off a large scent that attracts not only people, but bee's who like to collect the pollen that the flower produces.

The flowers are normally white, although occasionally you can find some with a pink hue to them. The flower first grows in the spring and creates six little stamens. By September the flower is producing sweet berries in place of the petals that are about 5-7mm in diameter.

The Lily of the Valley has some medicinal qualities to it. For many years the leaves and petals have been used in medicine because they contain cardiac glycosides.

Fun and interesting fact: The Lily of the Valley is also knows as Our Lady's tears because according to the legend the tears that that Mary shed at the cross turned in to Lily of the Valley flowers. Another legend claims that the flower also sprang up from the blood of St. Leonard during his battle with the dragon.


The Rose is June's Birth Flower

Rose

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

June: Rose
Alternate: Honeysuckle

One of the most popular flowers, the rose, is also the flower for those born in June. It is a flowering shrub with more than 100 species that bloom in different sizes and colors, and all of which have different meanings. The most common colors are red, pink, yellow and white, however you can find them in various other colors as well including orange, peach, purple and black.

All species of the Rosa come from the northern hemisphere, and normally form as shrubs or bushes with flowers. There are however some that are considered trailing plants or climbers that will grow up walls and over other plants.

The flowers of all species have five petals with the exception of one species, the Rosa sericea which only has four. Most roses contain hook shaped thorns which are there to aid the plant in hanging over other plants as it grows.

The rose is a beloved flower for its beauty and fragrance with a long history of symbolism and meaning. The ancient Greeks and Romans associated the roses with their goddesses of love Aphrodite and Venus which is probably what has led to the red rose being considered the rose of love in today's modern culture. In Rome a wild rose would also be placed on the doorstep of a room where confidential matters were being discussed, telling others not to enter.

In early Christianity, the five petals are linked to the five wounds of Christ, however the leaders were hesitant to adopt this theory. Instead the red rose was adopted as the symbol of the red blood shed by the Christian martyrs, and later it because associated with the Virgin Mary.

Color Meanings:

  • Red: love
  • Pink: grace, lesser feelings of love
  • Dark Pink: gratitude
  • Light Pink: admiration, sympathy
  • White: innocence, purity, secrecy, friendship, reverence and humility.
  • Yellow: Yellow roses generally mean dying love or platonic love. In German-speaking countries, however, they can mean jealousy and infidelity.
  • Yellow with red tips: Friendship, falling in love
  • Orange: passion
  • Burgundy: beauty
  • Blue: mystery
  • Green: calm
  • Black: slavish devotion (as a true black rose is impossible to produce)
  • Purple: protection (paternal/maternal love)

Fun and interesting fact: The rose is the national flower of both England and the United States, and the state flower of several U.S. states including Iowa, North Dakota, Georgia, New York and Texas. Portland, Oregon holds an annual rose festival to celebrate the rose, and in Southern California there is an annual Rose Parade consisting of floats designed with hundreds of thousands of roses for decorations.


The Larkspur is July's Birth Flower

Larkspur

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

July: Larkspur
Alternate: Water Lily

The Consolida and Delphinium, better known as the Larkspur includes about 40 annual flowering plants that are native to Western Europe through the Mediterranean region east to central Asia. The flowers are open and contain a single follicle of fruit, instead of a cluster.

The flower varies in size from 10cm to up to 2m in the meadowland species. Colors of the flower vary and can include purple, blue, red, yellow and white. The petals grow together forming a spur at the end and giving the flower its name, Larkspur. You will find the plant blooming starting in late spring and continuing through late summer, being pollinated by butterflies and bumble bees.

The Larkspur was called lark's heel by Shakespeare, and has also been referred too as lark's claw and knight's spur. The scientific name of Delphinium refers to the shape of the bud which is thought to look like a fat dolphin.

There are two species of Larkspur that are native to California and are considered to be endangered. These are the Baker's larkspur and the Yellow larkspur.

Larkspurs are generally considered garden plants. They are poisonous however and can cause death if eaten in large amounts. It is a significant cause of death in cattle ranges in higher elevations where it is more likely to be found. In small amount however the Larkspur has been used in medicine. It is believed that drinking the seed could help the sting from a scorpion, and that putting it in your hair can help kill lice and nits.

Fun and interesting fact: Mixing the juice from the Larkspur seed with alum can create a blue ink. Because of the blue color it used to be used in Transylvania on the stables to ward away witches.


The Gladiola is August's Birth Flower

Gladiola

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

August: Gladiolas
Alternate: Poppy

The Gladiola is native to South America but can be found growing in the United States and Europe. There are about 260 separate species. They are also referred to by many as Gladiolus, gladiola, "glads", and "Sword Lily" because of their long sword shaped leaves. However, the Gladiolas is not part of the Lily family. As a flower, the Gladiolas are one of the most popular flowers you will find planted in gardens because of their beauty, fragrance and the easiness of growing.

Gladiolas should be planted in the spring, and will grow and bloom in August. They can be found in several colors and bicolors, including pink to reddish or light purple with white, contrasting markings, or white to cream or orange to red, and blue. The blossoms open from the bottom first, but with harvesting will also open at the top either indoors or outdoors. They like rich, soft soil, plenty of water, and plenty of shade. Make sure the sun hits your Gladiolas during the day, but that your flowers are not drenched in sunlight all day, drying out the soil. Gladiolas can grow to 3 or 4 feet tall.

Gladiolas do not grow from a bulb as most flowers do, but they originate in a corm. The main difference being that a bulb produces new bulbs under the main bulb and the corm produces new corm's above the main corm. This makes it easy to dig up the corm, separate, wash and store the baby corm's till the next season when it is time to plant.

Fun and interesting fact: The Gladiola was adopted by actress Dame Edna Everage and was often seen in pictures and publicity shots for her. Morrissey has done the same since he was with the band The Smith's back in the 1980's.


The Aster is September's Birth Flower

Aster

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

October: Aster
Alternate: Morning Glory

The Aster includes 600 species of star shaped flowering plants. The name is Greek, meaning "star". Most of the species are found in gardens because of their showy flowers and petals. The Aster is unique for its delicate purple color suggesting a manner in which these core aspects of the Self are brought to a very high spiritual level of expression. The Aster can also be found in a variety of other colors including blue and white.

The Aster is known for its well defined physical structure and strong integrative features. Because of this it is thought that the Aster has qualities of strength, immunity and integration. Depending on the exact species, Asters begin growing in the summer and continue growing through the fall.

In order to multiply and continue to grow well, Asters should be transplanted and divided at the room every other year. It is best to do this in early spring, keeping the root wet the day before and after dividing it. Doing this will rejuvenate the plant, help with size control and also give you more of them to add to the garden. Aster's grow best in rich wet soil, and can be grown either in direct sunlight or in the shade.

Fun and interesting fact: Legend has it that burning the Aster leaves will keep away snakes. In French tradition it is said that placing the flowers on the grave of a dead soldier is a tribute to his bravery.


The Calendula is October's Birth Flower

Calendula

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

October: Calendula
Alternate: Cosmos

The Calendula includes 12-20 species of annual plants in the daisy family that are native from Macaronesia east through the Mediterranean region to Iran. It can also be referred to as the "marigold".

Calendula means the first day of the month, referring to the fact that the marigold blooms at the beginning of the month throughout most months of the year.

The Calendula normally has layered petals that are oval in shape and can grow to be 3-7cm across. The colors range through various shades of yellow and orange. It is suggested that you should remove the dying flower heads in order to help maintain even blossom production.

As a herb, the ointment from Calendula's is used to cure many skin problems from burns to acne because of its properties that reduce inflammation, soothes irritated tissue, and controls bleeding. It can be used internally or topically for minor wounds as well as diaper rash and cradle cap in infants.

Fun and interesting fact: In Old World Biblical terms the marigold actually refers to the Virgin Mary.


The Chrysanthemum is November's Birth Flower

Chrysanthemum

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

November: Chrysanthemum
Alternate: None

The Chrysanthemum, which is closely related to the daisy is often referred to by cultivators and gardeners as "mums". It currently includes about 30 species of perineal flowering plants which are native to Asia and northeastern Europe. At one point there were more species of the Chrysanthemum but the species was split.

The Chrysanthemum can grow between 50-150cm tall, has deep leaves and large flower heads with dozens of petals. The Chrysanthemum is most commonly found in shades of white, pink, red and yellow.

In parts of Asia the Chrysanthemum petals are boiled in order to make a sweet drink known as Chrysanthemum tea. It is believed that this tea has many medicinal uses including curing influenza.

The Chrysanthemum resembles a close cousin the mugwort weed which is often called the wild Chrysanthemum. Because of this many florists do not like to use the Chrysanthemum in floral arrangements. In some countries in Europe and in Japan, Chrysanthemum's are the symbol of death and only used in funeral arrangements, while the opposite is true in America where it is seen more as positive and cheerful.

Fun and interesting fact: An ancient Chinese city was named Chu-Hsien, meaning "chrysanthemum city". The flower was introduced into Japan probably in the 8th century CE, and the Emperor adopted the flower as his official seal. There is a "Festival of Happiness" in Japan that celebrates the flower.


The Narcissus is December's Birth Flower

Narcissus

Everyone knows that they have a specific birthstone that is placed in jewelry and trinkets to signify the month they were born in. However, many people don't know that just like the stones, each month has a flower or two as well, which symbolizes birth. Here is the history and meaning behind your birth flower.

December: Narcissus
Alternate: Holly

While most Narcissus's, like the Daffodil bloom in the spring, there are several that bloom in the fall and winter. The Narcissus is mostly native to the Mediterranean region but there are a few found in Asia and China. Because of modifications there are new species being created in nurseries almost every year.

The name Narcissus is from the narcissistic youth of Greek mythology called Narkissos. Technically "Narcissi" is the plural form, The American Daffodil Society prefers the use of "narcissus" for both singular and plural.

Narcissus are often called jonquils in North America, but in reality that name belongs only to the rush-leaved Narcissus jonquilla and cultivars derived from it.

The Narcissus has a trumpet shaped corona that is surrounded by a ring of petals. They are also poisonous and can be fatal if eaten so no parts of the flower should be ingested.

Fun and interesting fact: When comparing the Daffodil, Jonquil, and the "Narcissus", it is important to remember that both the Daffodil and Jonquil are a part of the Narcissus genus. However while the names "Daffodil" and "Narcissus" can be used interchangeably, a Jonquil is a completely different plant down to the shape of the petals and leaves.

...bAbY's biRtH mOnTh fLoWeR...

Birth Month Birth Flower Flower Color Flower Meaning
January Carnation or Snowdrop Black, Dark Blue or Red Fascination; Devoted Love / Consolation; A Friend in Adversity
February Violet or Primrose Violet, Sky Blue or Yellow Modesty; Faithfulness; Virtue / Young Love
March Daffodil or Jonquil White or Light Blue Regard; Devotion / Affection Returned; Sympathy
April Daisy or Sweet Pea Yellow, Red and Colorless Innocence; Youth; Purity / Goodbye; Blissful Pleasure; Departure
May Lily of the Valley or Hawthorn Yellow, Red and Green Sweetness; Humility; Return of Happiness / Fertility; Hope
June Rose or Honeysuckle Light Blue, White and Cream Love / Devoted Affection
July Larkspur or Water Lily Green, Russet and Red Laughter / Purity of Heart
August Gladiolas or Poppy Orange, Red and Light Green Strength of Character; Sincerity; Generosity; Natural Grace / Eternal Sleep; Imagination; Oblivion
September Aster or Morning Glory Brown, Deep Blue Symbol of Love; Daintiness / Talisman of Love; Affection
October Calendula or Cosmos White, Yellow and Varied Joy / Modesty
November Chrysanthemum Dark Blue, Red and Yellow Cheerfulness; You're a Wonderful Friend; Rest; Lovliness; Abundance; Wealth
December Narcissus or Holly Indigo, Green, Greenish-Blue Stay as Sweet as You Are; Egotism; Formality / Foresight, Good Wishes

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

...2nd post...

ni smbungan utk kata2 pujangga ..de lg ckit jek ni..he3...

  • i don't care what you have to say..i just turn around and walkaway..did you really think i would cry again???nah boo,think again
  • my love is like WOW..my family is like HEAVEN..my friends are the BEST..and i'm completely HAPPY
  • sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past..stop planning the future..stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel..stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel..sometimes we just have to go with.."whatever happens,happens.."
  • life is about change..sometimes its painful..sometimes its beautiful most of the time
  • don't regret the things you've done..regret the things you didn't do when you had the chance
  • my name must taste good coz it always in somebody's mouth
  • i don't give anyone a reason to hate me..they create their own little drama of pure jealousy
  • life is to short..grudges are a waste of perfect happiness..laugh when you can..apologize when u should and let go of what you can change..love deeply and forgive quickly..take chances give everything and have no regrets
  • life is too short to be unhappy..you have to take good with the bad..smile when you are sad..love what you got and always remember what you had..always forgive but never forget..learn from your mistake but never regret
  • be strong now coz things will get better..it might be storm now but it can't rain forever
  • don't take for granted what you have today..it could be gone tomorrow
  • life is not the amount of breaths you take..its the amount of moments that take you breath away
  • get a problem with me??solve it!!think i'm trippin??tie my shoe!!can't stand me??sit down!!can't face me??turn around!!
  • one day you are going to wake up and realize how much you care about me..and when the day comes,i'll be waking up next to you that already know
  • don't let nothing come between you are friendship because life is way too short
  • the best things in life are unseen..that's why we close our eyes when we cry,kiss and dream
  • love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them not to
  • our eyes is the winner of our soul
dh hbs dh..ni jek la yg ak nk share ngn sume.. Easter egg peekaboo

...1st post...

hmm this is my 1st post..juz nk share about kata2 pujangga (yeke???hmm pe2 jek la)....

  • the people you need in your life are those that need you in theirs
  • with every mistake we still must be learning
  • true friendship isn't being inseparable,its being separated and nothing change
  • you might regret what you let slip away
  • forgiveness is not something we do for other people.we do for ourselves to get well and move on
  • the spaces in between your fingers were created so someone else's could fit right in between
  • never regret something that once you made you smile
  • fate determine who enters your life..your actions decide who stays
  • embrace those who love you and whom you love and rid yourself those who will bring you down
  • maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back..maybe you have to let go of who you are to become who you will be
  • don't worry about the people you past..there's a reason they didn't make it to your future
  • take pride in whatever it is that makes you different..individuality is what divides you from the rest
  • be who you are and say what you feel..because those who mind don't matter and those who matter,don't mind
  • many people walk in and out of our lives but only true friends leave footprints in our heart
  • no regrets all mistakes are just lessons learned

to be continued......
 

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